feeling old........

schnepf13 · **Posted:** Fri Jun 29, 2012 3:25 pm

Speaking as a husband, a father of a three-year-old girl and as a guy who is now well into adulthood...

My philosophy is: we all have certain responsibilities we have to take care of in life. So long as we are fulfulling those responsibilities, what we do in our free time is our own damn business!

Just because I've reached a certain age, it doesn't mean I have to start necessarily dressing a certain way or acting a certain way.

As we get older, our tastes may naturally change and we often devolop new interests or passions we didn't have when we were younger. But to change ourselves simply because we've reached a certain chronological age, well, that doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

Hou-Tex · **Posted:** Fri Jun 29, 2012 4:37 pm

pappawookee wrote:

I know I'm not as 'chronologically challenged' as many members on here but today is my eldest daughter's last day at primary scholl and she will start at the academy after the summer holidays.

I have been quite non plussed by this until last night when I went to see her 'leaver's concert'.......... :shock:

Man, it hit home how big a mile stone this is in her life - how everything will change for her going to the 'big' school now, leaving the security of primary school and growing up - and how much I suddenly realised....I have a child that is almost a teenager.....I believe she is only a couple of years younger than super kid!!!!!

And then I just felt old.......... :roll:

My dilemma is this.....should I try and be the cool dad....the one in the bands with the piercings and tattoos or is it time to get sensible and start wearing corduroy blazers and grey slacks and stop chasing my dreams of becoming a viking guitar god?drinking, swearing, belching and farting my way through life and, no doubt, causing her years of embarrassment and heartache..............

Is it time for me to grow up and become the role model I am probably meant to be?

AAAAARRRGGHHHHHHHH!!! help me please........... :roll:

I have a Grandson that will be starting school next year, so I'm a tad older than you. :shock:

I haven't read the other responses so I don't know if anyone said to be yourself. When people try to be something they are not, they become plastic, synthetic, molded and non human.

What a boring world that would be.

AO1793 · **Joined:** Wed Jun 02, 2010 2:57 pm **Posts:** 149

tyronne wrote:

Primary school has shook you up???

Wait till she graduates College! Better yet, wait till you're walking her down the aisle!

As a 19 year old male the idea of marriage makes me shiver. lol.

I think you will both learn lessons in all of this. Most importantly your daughter will learn that she will make mistakes. Some of them royal. Hopefully none to serious. I know over the past 5 years that's been my biggest lesson. "Bro, you are gonna screw up. Bad. Life isn't over though. You are not a bad person. It just happens to the best of us."
That's what I would tell her.

As for your appearance? Do what you have always done man. I have been on both sides of the fence, picking up a lovely young lady and her dad was clean cut, or a different young lady who looked like he rocked pretty hard. I respected both guys because they were the father of someone who I cared about.

I feel your appearance won't mean all that much. Just do what you do as a parent and you will be ok.

Side note to all of this: I am the oldest of 4 males. My mother is the only woman in the house. I have no idea how a teenage girl reacts to her family (when I wasnt around) so maybe everything is a little different but the message is the same. Be daddy to her, and everything will be ok.

Solid Body Love Songs · **Posted:** Sat Jun 30, 2012 4:41 am

Evan, that you are thinking about it means everything. You can have the best of both worlds now (remember that rock and roll is high energy theater so you get to wear costumes, make-up and painted on tattoo's if needed, lol) I'm sure you are a great Dad and in the grand scheme of things that is as cool as it gets.

shaky · **Posted:** Sat Jun 30, 2012 4:57 am

pappawookee wrote:

I know I'm not as 'chronologically challenged' as many members on here but today is my eldest daughter's last day at primary scholl and she will start at the academy after the summer holidays.

And then I just felt old.......... :roll:

Is it time for me to grow up and become the role model I am probably meant to be?

AAAAARRRGGHHHHHHHH!!! help me please........... :roll:

Time to get out the bottle and spend time looking at the photos of your daughter when she was a kid.. when she needed you. Sobbing can be therapeutic.

There may still be a role when the other kids start bullying her, you can go to the school and point it out to the staff, they will then deny any such thing is happening. And then of course other roles - taxi driver, ATM to name but two.

I was apparently embarrassing, playing guitar, driving my beach buggy but that has now passed to 'my old man is cool' - his mates had to tell him so. He is fifteen and I'm nearly sixty and we seem to be doing OK with each other. Long may it last.

I havent grown up -I have grown old(er) - things hurt more now and take longer to heal. I have just bought a new snowboard for next season, I have learnt to come to a halt and and remain standing.

My advice would be don't try anything, you are you. If you try to be something else it may well fail, for instance if you try to impress.

One last thing - don't be surprised when they start playing 'our' music and wondering how you know the words!

Solid Body Love Songs · **Posted:** Mon Sep 17, 2012 3:47 pm

shaky wrote:

pappawookee wrote:

I know I'm not as 'chronologically challenged' as many members on here but today is my eldest daughter's last day at primary scholl and she will start at the academy after the summer holidays.

And then I just felt old.......... :roll:

Is it time for me to grow up and become the role model I am probably meant to be?

AAAAARRRGGHHHHHHHH!!! help me please........... :roll:

Time to get out the bottle and spend time looking at the photos of your daughter when she was a kid.. when she needed you. Sobbing can be therapeutic.

There may still be a role when the other kids start bullying her, you can go to the school and point it out to the staff, they will then deny any such thing is happening. And then of course other roles - taxi driver, ATM to name but two.

I was apparently embarrassing, playing guitar, driving my beach buggy but that has now passed to 'my old man is cool' - his mates had to tell him so. He is fifteen and I'm nearly sixty and we seem to be doing OK with each other. Long may it last.

I havent grown up -I have grown old(er) - things hurt more now and take longer to heal. I have just bought a new snowboard for next season, I have learnt to come to a halt and and remain standing.

My advice would be don't try anything, you are you. If you try to be something else it may well fail, for instance if you try to impress.

One last thing - don't be surprised when they start playing 'our' music and wondering how you know the words!

First time I saw a Shaky post, thought it worth a second view.

inbalance99 · **Posted:** Tue Sep 18, 2012 1:42 pm

My grandson is 3. I always get a chuckle when a young pup complains about feeling old, just wait until you are. (not sure I am just yet)

Relax, be yourself. Kids take it all in, what they see and hear, it'll just appear to you that nothing is getting through. And they'll put their own spin on it, so you'll never know. Hope that helps.

jeebus · **Joined:** Tue Mar 16, 2010 1:35 pm **Posts:** 1296

pappawookee, just be yourself. you're probably already the cool dad.
bizarredude, you're in dallas?????? i'm right down the road in euless. lets jam.

somebizarredude · **Posted:** Tue Sep 18, 2012 2:00 pm

I would NEVER live in Dallas :lol:

I live out near Wichita Falls. its a good ways away from ya :wink:

bluesky636 · **Posted:** Tue Sep 18, 2012 4:33 pm

schnepf13 wrote:

As we get older, our tastes may naturally change and we often devolop new interests or passions we didn't have when we were younger.

How true.

Me in the late 60's:

Me today:

pappawookee, you're not getting older, you're getting better. :lol:

Martian · **Posted:** Wed Sep 19, 2012 9:05 am

My grand kids are both in the double digits, age wise. One of the most singular "reality checks" I've experienced about getting old is, it takes your mind a whole lot longer to realize it than it takes your body to. All I can say is, don't panic, sulk or try to reinvent yourself. Just go with the flow as that's what got you this far. :wink:

Snowjoe · **Posted:** Wed Sep 19, 2012 9:09 am

I must admit, I'm only 24, however in the bar I work in some of our regulars are pushing their late 60's and still having just as much fun and being just as social as I am. I used to think everyone had to get old and grumpy, but I've seen enough from people many years older than me that that's only the case if you decide to go that route.

For the record I'm not trying to brand anyone here in their 60's as old :lol:

, if anything the amount of active and social people in their 60's has lightened my ideas of getting older, and I wouldn't consider these guys I know old in any way.

ZZDoc · **Posted:** Thu Sep 20, 2012 7:22 am

"This above all:to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man." Hamlet: Act 1, Scene 3 :wink:

RRR · **Joined:** Wed Jan 18, 2012 10:13 pm **Posts:** 282

If your daughter is grown up now, you're already past the point of worrying about setting an example (i.e. role model). That time would've ended around her 10th or 11th birthday.

The views of a father of 2, and grandfather of 3.

Briese · **Joined:** Fri Jan 28, 2011 11:34 am **Posts:** 168

In a few years your daughter will want to begin dating. At that point it can be very useful to have tattoos, facial hair and a couple of strategically placed weapons in the house. I have found that intimidation by a girl's father can help motivate a young man to treat her with respect. A jerk will still be a jerk but it doesn't hurt for him to know that there could be consequences for inappropriate actions.

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