A few words of advice:

If you haven't lost your virginity, keep it until you are absolutely sure she is your soul mate. If there is one thing I'd do over, it would be to wait for my soul mate. It's a biblical thing, "when the two become one flesh". I do wish I would have understood this sooner.

You'll need to know a woman for at least 2 full years of regular contact to establish whether or not she is your soul mate, not your lust mate -- even if you both "know". What is regular contact? You're with each other as friends most, if not all of the time. If she thinks you are her soul mate, she wont want to do *anything* without you!

If she's "dating" or "going out" or "staying late" or with "an old friend", other men, she's absolutely not your soul mate and is probably lusting with those men, in which case, you're just another guy to her!

Look into The Five Love Languages...this may be a great way to break the ice with her if you are serious! And, it will be a strong foundation for you two to build upon! And, it will be a strong foundation for you to present to your soul mate, when you find her!

Know that people change from day to day, year to year, decade to decade. What you two enjoy today may not be enjoyable for one or the other in the future! The 2-year association usually roots all that out!

Know that each time you conquer awkward feelings, it gets easier to do so and you will become less and less flustered as time goes along! Kind o' like taking a dive into cold water. You get over the shock quickly and it becomes easier to take the dive each time knowing that brief shock turns to warm fun!

If you have any doubts about joining flesh with a woman for all of eternity, don't, period. That's your good instincts talking, listen to them.

oh..."trust but verify."

A few words of advice:

It's a biblical thing, "when the two become one flesh". I do wish I would have understood this sooner.

You'll need to know a woman for at least 2 full years of regular contact to establish whether or not she is your soul mate, not your lust mate -- even if you both "know".

If she's "dating" or "going out" or "staying late" or with "an old friend", other men, she's absolutely not your soul mate and is probably lusting with those men,

Look into The Five Love Languages...

Know that people change from day to day, year to year, decade to decade.

it becomes easier to take the dive each time knowing that brief shock turns to warm fun!

If you have any doubts about joining flesh with a woman for all of eternity, don't,

and with my ross geller-like talking to girl skills

This always worked for me: Instead of mentally torturing yourself, go up to the girl, one on one, tell her you're super nervous and don't have any good lines. Go on to say that you think she's a very intelligent, attractive person with a great personality. Then ask her if she'd like to go for a soda (or whatever it is you kids do nowadays within a casual, non-threatening setting). One of two things will happen: She'll either agree to it or shoot you down, plain and simple. Either way, you'll have closure.

i tried. but no.
she did however tell me that there werent any IT technicians in the in the IT office at the school as my laptop was busted. it was just so unexpected i just said, 'uh, alright', and went back to my seat. if i had've known i atleast would have said something a tad more constructive

maybe next week...