ok. some people might go off at me for this, but honestly, i thought i'd feel alot more comfortable posting this here than talking to my parents about it
year 10 has started, an ive got this girl in 4/10 of my classes. she seems nice, we appear to have a bit in common, like the fact that both of us seem a little shy and we both see the school counseller. for the past 3 weeks, i litterally can not stop thinking about her. the weirdest part is, we havent even talked. not once. and with my ross geller-like talking to girl skills, should i wait for her to talk to me? i know it sounds crazy but i almost get the vibe that she feels the same way about me, which she probably doesnt anyway.
what the hell should i do

oh, and to make this post the slightest on topic, i went into the studio at school today to record some vocal and guitar demo's. twas fun!

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NO!

Don't wait because if she's thinking the same thing then it will never happen.

Remember you don't have to open up with a charming line and sweep her off her feet, just chat to her and try find out what she's into. Hobbies music blah blah blah, if you find out you guys have stuff in common or get on well then go ask her if she wants to do something.

Just go talk to her sooner rather than later, you have nothing to lose here. Maybe shes not into you or doesn't wanna be friends but you're better off knowing rather than constantly thinking "what if". Best case scenario you end up with a lovely girl. You never know.

I used to be terrified of girls but honestly now I've realised its much better to be turned down and know where you stand than sit around dreaming, and trust me I've been turned down a fair few times

talk to her, just relax and be yourself. If you get along cool, if not no big deal. the only way to get comfortable talking to women is by talking to women. No lines, no act... just talk to her and be you.

Go talk to her Riley mate, don't let today's dream become a distant regret, boy meets girl, girl meets boy, that's what's been going on since Adam and Eve, you don't have to be Michael Parkinson or David Frost just a simple Hi, how are you ? will be enough to get you started, best of luck

A few words of advice:

If you haven't lost your virginity, keep it until you are absolutely sure she is your soul mate. If there is one thing I'd do over, it would be to wait for my soul mate. It's a biblical thing, "when the two become one flesh". I do wish I would have understood this sooner.

You'll need to know a woman for at least 2 full years of regular contact to establish whether or not she is your soul mate, not your lust mate -- even if you both "know". What is regular contact? You're with each other as friends most, if not all of the time. If she thinks you are her soul mate, she wont want to do *anything* without you!

If she's "dating" or "going out" or "staying late" or with "an old friend", other men, she's absolutely not your soul mate and is probably lusting with those men, in which case, you're just another guy to her!

Look into The Five Love Languages...this may be a great way to break the ice with her if you are serious! And, it will be a strong foundation for you two to build upon! And, it will be a strong foundation for you to present to your soul mate, when you find her!

Know that people change from day to day, year to year, decade to decade. What you two enjoy today may not be enjoyable for one or the other in the future! The 2-year association usually roots all that out!

Know that each time you conquer awkward feelings, it gets easier to do so and you will become less and less flustered as time goes along! Kind o' like taking a dive into cold water. You get over the shock quickly and it becomes easier to take the dive each time knowing that brief shock turns to warm fun!

If you have any doubts about joining flesh with a woman for all of eternity, don't, period. That's your good instincts talking, listen to them.

oh..."trust but verify."

GO TALK TO HER BOY

Riley-
I too had Ross Gellar-like skills at talking to girls (great description, by the way), but for some reason I was able to get my brain all focused and in a row a few times in my life, and the results were surprising...

I specifically remember three times that I was able to "handle it" communication-wise; only once was I shot down. The other two? I dated one girl for a year and married the other almost 19 years ago.

If this girl seems to be on the same wavelength as you, she might be waiting for you to chat her up...go for it! What do you have to lose?

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Good Vibes To Y'all!



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"Hi, did we have homework for..."

Ice=Broken.

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Rated "M" for meaty.

Don`t let the opportunity slip by, you may be sorry. She`s probably waiting for you to open the door to conversation as much as you want to talk to her. Go for it, you have nothing to loose.

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Being that you have some classes together, there's your opportunity to start a conversation. See which way she comes to class and walk in with her. Do it a few times in a row, you won't have to say much and she'll get the idea.

try to notice things about her, what kind of gum she chews, if she uses pencils or pens, If you comment on something she does, she'll see you're paying attention.

If all else fails, get her a candy bar.

Go talk to her Riley. Someone has to brake the ice and it may as well be you.
----Danny,

Mate,
If your thinking she thinks the same she does!!! She would undoubtably be thinking about you MORE than you think about her....I promise you this is the truth... Just keep it lighthearted and send her a note or just say straight out hey we should hang out some time.... What you don't yet realise is girls are just waiting for guys to ask them to hang out....Girls at that age want nothing more than for you to ask them that.... You HAVE TO man up and get the message to her that you want to hang out some time however you do so........Its so much easier than you think mate.... it really really is.......Ask her if she would be so kind to listen to some of your music and tell you what she thinks because you would love a pretty girls opinion.....There's a super cool ice breaker....... Do it straight away mate......Before someone else does....

PROMISE US YOU"LL DO IT NEXT WEEK!!!!

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Just engage her in some idle chit chat about school work such as did she have any trouble with a recent assignment or if she likes science class better than math etc. just to break the ice and that would encourage her to talk to you.If you have music class in your school like they did in my day ask her what kinds of music she likes or if she plays an instrument. You may be surprised and find that you have dozens of things in common. Do as the Beatle song says:"You have found her now go and get her."

BTW I bet dollars to doughnuts that she's trying to get her courage up to.

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Riley, all the Bros are in your corner. If that isn't super cool, I don't know what is. Follow every one's advice, not all in the same day, try a different one until she starts to talk to you and then, well, talk to her.

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you can save the world with your guitar one love song at a time it's just better, more fun, easier with a fender solid body electric guitar or electric bass guitar.

Just talk with her. Start a bit small, and let it grow. Eventually, get somewhere to where you feel confident to take her on a date or something. I'm not good for advice, because I always try to do things like this in an unconventional, or difficult way. But good luck.

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