So I need help, again. Imagine that!
So me and my younger 11 year old sister got in a huge fight. She deny's that I'm the closest thing she has to a mother. And has no respect for me. I'm to the point of crying I'm so mad.
sorry for the rant. it coulda been longer.
anyways, I'm needin' somethin' to listen to to help me out, what do you guys listen to when you're super mad? Or am I the only one who turns to music when I'm pissed?

anyways,thanks.
Tessa.

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Talman Ibanez Inner City-Suizy Q
2002 American-Made Fender Telecaster-Vengence
Fender Hot Rod Deluxe III

Tessa, as far as your sister having no respect for you just continue trying your best to help her in lifes situations. Dont be the mother figure in her life just to be praised for it, do it because you want her to succeed. As far as music to listen to, listen to something that makes you smile. Something from an artist you respect musically.
Im 16 and me and my brother (15) dont get along, we are 2 completely different people. He likes to party and get in trouble,I play guitar and baseball stay out of trouble. But I still make an effort to help him in situations where he has to overcome a challange, it may not seem as if you influence your sister but you do. In some way you influence her. Sorry for the long post/rant.

Little Wing.

It makes me blush when I hear it actually.

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Listening to Disturbed always helps get my anger out and helps me simmer down.

I hope all turns out well. Positive vibes coming your way.

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That's easy....Anything by Pantera.

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Hi Tessa: it's so sad when siblings don't get on. A brother or sister should be the very best friend you have in your life; always there for each other.

My brother and I were completely different kinds of people but the closest possible friends. I lost him ten years ago and not a day goes past when I don't wish I could get him back. At least we did well with the time we had. Make the most of your sister: you're the older one so it's up to you to direct your relationship in a positive direction. You have a lifetime of pleasure and support ahead of you if you do. Out of nosy curiosity, what's the age difference between you?

Anyhow. My musical taste is surely different to yours. But there's two ways to go here. Something loud and aggressive to blot the annoyance out of your mind. Or something gentle and peaceful to calm you down so you can take a few relaxing breaths and then go make friends with your sister. I'd choose the latter.

Best of luck - C

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Excellent Question. Depends on the type of anger and how I want to deal with it.

Bad grade on a test>Take the Power Back, Rage Against the Machine
Car broke down/wrecked>Walk, Pantera
Girl Problems>Crosstown Traffic, Hendrix
Lost something and can't find it (guitar tuner, etc...)>Seek and Destroy, Metallica
Bad Gig>Any type of classical, usually violin sonatas or concertos (Itzak Perlman, Joshua Bell, etc...)
Angry about everything>Madhouse, Anthrax
Ripped off, money troubles>Money, Pink Floyd
Lies/Betrayal/Backstabbing>Killing Floor, Hendrix

If I want to be happy instead of feed the anger, here's a few songs I use to get in a better mood:
Worries-Langhorne Slim
Love Rollercoaster-Ohio Players (Any type of Funk really)
Back in Black-AC/DC
No Way but the Hard Way-Airbourne

There's many more, but these are the main ones I think >_>

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I used to listen to anything by Korn when I was super mad. But after a while I noticed that all it did was keep me mad for a while. Now I listen to Bob Marley to ease up rather than stay mad.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJDMaAb1gsc&feature=related

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The one song that always cheers me up even just a little in For What It's Worth by Buffalo Springfield.

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I choose not to feed my anger, so when I'm mad I generally try to listen to something that is more relaxing or something that puts me in a "happy place"...

To just brighten my mood, early and late ZZ Top (dismissing everything between 1982 and 1988) always does the trick...not that their releases during that time period were bad, it's just I like the other stuff better.

The old Chess blues albums perk me up, too.

Soulful, jazzy pop also does wonders for relaxing; Sade, Adele, Norah Jones, early Nat "King" Cole Trio stuff. Also, most of Lucinda Williams' recordings (especially the "Car Wheels On A Gravel Road" CD) does the trick. Shelby Lynn's later albums ("I Am Shelby Lynn" and later) are inspiring, too.

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As far as the sibling dynamic between Tessa and Younger Sister of Tessa:
I realize your mother is not present and you are taking on some pretty serious responsibilities. I admire your desire to help your sister and ability to do so in that regard.

However, in my experience as a younger brother (my sole sibling is six years my senior), trying to force your will or demand respect/recognition as a parental/superior figure will mostly create resentment and irritation. 

My brother constantly criticized and corrected what he thought I was doing wrong, even in areas where it was (1) a matter of opinion or (2) he was misinformed. I have never pointed out that we have chosen entirely different paths, and although I may have a less flashy lifestyle, I've had a steadier, more stable situation financially, professionally, etc. I'm not saying I'm right and he's wrong, but the proof is in the pudding--I've had less drama and problems in my life (even though there's been plenty to go around).

While I initially had a degree of admiration for him (he's older, better looking, stronger and a "man of action", whereas I'm average looking and more cerebral, a "man of thought"), I eventually resented his intrusions into my life. It came to a head when his wife created problems in our family life (disrespecting our parents, myself and my wife) and he refused to understand that he has no right to an opinion over how I make my livelihood, where I choose to live or how my wife (politely but firmly) responds to his wife's unwelcome intrusions. 

Unfortunately, there was a period of about four or five years where we had minimal contact. He didn't respect my role as a man, husband and father in my own household, so I didn't respect his role as my sibling. I regret that it came to a situation where I would/could not associate with him (and I missed some great years with my nephews and niece), but eventually he realized that his role in my life was going to either be a (a) friend or (b) distant acquaintance, depending upon his (and his wife's) actions and words toward me and my wife (and later, child). I didn't fight or argue, I just walked away from him...

Ten years later, we now have a good diplomatic relationship, but we aren't as close as we could have been, and I unfortunately think we may never attain that closer status. It troubles our parents (especially our mother) greatly that we aren't closer to each other, but it goes back to how he chooses to act. 

Be a big sister--a loving, concerned, good friend and someone she can admire. Don't try to be her parental unit, you're not made for it.

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Screamin' Armadillos
Texas Roadhouse Music
Guitar/Slide Guitar/Harp/Vocals

Don't fight with little sis over who's the boss, She is upset over the situation just as you are. Make the best of things as sisters that are there for eachother. Have you ever tried a little writing when your angry/sad or happy for that mater? Your emotions mix well with your music. who knows you might come up with a cool song.
----Danny,

I write when I'm mad, ALOT, I haven't turned anything into song form yet, I'm tossing one around in my head right now though, that pretains to this issue, I've got like two lyrics so far
"like broken matches"
and,
"I see people talking,
But I don't hear a thing,
Nothing makes sense to me anymore"
not the best, but we'll see,

Mys sister and I are about 3 years apart, I turn 14 on Saturday, she's 11.
I usualy try for hardcore rock, or Christian rock, like Skillet, Switchfoot, or Red. i was jsut curious to see what y'all used.
I know I'm not her mother, and it's not technically my job to raise her, but I'm the one who's ALWAYS there for her, and I've gone through everything she's going through already. so...
But thanks guys,
♥Tessa

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"He who hates me hates my Father as well."
John 15:23

Talman Ibanez Inner City-Suizy Q
2002 American-Made Fender Telecaster-Vengence
Fender Hot Rod Deluxe III

Tesa don,t try to be a mother you are her big sister and thats what you need to be. Besides that you need to be best friends. Now we need a pic of you two making up.