How do you know when you feel it?

Is it an action, a word, a thing?

Just curious.

(Explanation later, when I can fully collect my thoughts)

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The Beatles say all you need is.

What kinda love are you referring to? And which direction - receiving or giving?
"In love" love:
If you are male and feel it for a female, believe me, you won't mistake it.
Clue: It will not be the same feeling as lust. Love is much more powerful and profound than that. It will elevate your mood beyond the clouds and energize your life.
That is scratching the surface of the "in-love" love.

I say "if you are a male...", because I can only speak from a male perspective.
It is a feeling/mindset which is then physically shown by actions, words, and things.

If you speak of love for your neighbor, that is a little tougher as I am still working on that one.

Basically, love isn't even a physical attraction, it's more of a feeling about someone's existence?

I've felt strongly about a friend of mine for about a year, and am not quite sure how to act on it. I've thought about it many nights and it sort of gets to me and keeps me awake some times. I've shared the way I feel and she's cool with it, no friend zoning, no awkward stares, or anything.

I'm just not quite sure how to turn a feeling into an expression (through an action, thing, etc)

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Love is like peeing in your pants... everyone can see it, but only you can feel its warmth....

I'm just joking... You know I been thinking a lot about that too. I been dating this girl for a while and I still haven't muttered the three little words yet (except once but I was a little "out of it" if you know what I me )

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(former user jimbo612)

Yeah, it is with "the person". Not so much physical, though that is a part of it on a different level. It is like you are enamoured with the intangeable, invisible part of the person. The person-ality, so to speak. Then you can really see the beauty of the physical form of the person. Everything about their physical presence may seem adorable to you and special, even down to tiny details that normally would seem insignificant, like how cute her fingers look.

Don't worry about what to do to turn it into words or actions.
You will not be able to help yourself and they will find their way out into actions and speech eventually. Just remember to be respectful and be yourself. Don't pressure yourself or try too hard.
Just hanging out and being involved in each others' lives life is a good way to just let things grow naturally and to care for each other. Not some formal announcement and declaration of your love. Instead, try growing together in your lives. That way the pressure is off, and you really get to know each other and show that you care.

And remember that you are enamoured with this person at this time.
If her feelings aren't the same and the relationship dissolves, don't despair. Your good heart will find someone else in the future to give itself to who will be looking for someone like you to give her heart to.

If you have to think about it, your not. If you are, you'll know it. It's a feeling like you've never known, and it usually comes after a significant friendship with the person. What you feel at first sight is not love, but infatuation. Something that you will feel many times in your life. Approach an infatuation with extreme caution, You are at a distinct disadvantage during those times. Enjoy this time in your life, and try not to make to many mistakes.
----Danny,

well, buxom, its good to see that your not mistaking love for lust.

i dunno if i've felt it for anyone, there was this one girl who i had strong feelings for, in mid year 8, i didnt give a damn how she looked, or acted, i litterally could not stop thinking about her 24/7. but i dunno if youd consider it love, probably infatuation like DD said. we hung out, unfortuanetley i asked her out to fast, and now whenever we pass each other in the hall at school its like someone. dropped a bomb, its so awkward.
so buxom, my advice, i wouldnt act on your feelings to fast, or it could ruin your friendship

but hey, dont take my advice, i flirt with girls like this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_SsshzYwnHI

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Hey Buxom,

Ive found love to be something i hadnt expected. In a way its more negative than i expected.... Sounds wrong... I`ll try to explain.

I have felt so strongly about others and thought it to be love, but then been able to move on with my life afterwards in a way love would surely not allow me to. Love for me has been finding somebody that i dont feel i could be without, no matter what happens or how we change, just the thought of anything happening to lady clam, or of me not being around her... It put my stomach in knots. Hard to explain, but to me that is more about love than the positives of when we are together are, as there are lots of ups and downs, love isnt all good, but its something that you cant give up once you have it. If you can imagine spitting with someone or moving on, its not love. If you know the only option is to push on together because you are made for eachother and should be together no matter what... Thats love. For better or for worse.

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I think that is a very good post.

To add a few words, love is when you (truly) care more about someone else's happiness than your own. If deep inside yourself you know that isn't the case then, as Danny says, it is infatuation, not love.

Cheers - C

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+1 to that

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Love is B/S....it's when you feel an attraction to someone otherwise known as "lust",and you talk yourself into thinking you're "in love".
Then when you've been with that someone for a period of time and the "in love" starts to wear thin,you find out you had better "like" the person a whole lot.

Like most to which humans humans ascribe aome kind of moral value, "love" is a mental construct that helps create the illusion that the part of our consciousness we call "I" is actually in control of our behavior (hint: it's not). These huge brains spend a lot of their time making up stuff that helps us believe crazy things like we are in the driver's seat, we're not really just great apes, we're going to live forever, things we create have an inherent "beauty" in them, etc., etc.

Which is not to say what we call "love" isn't pleasing and comforting, because it sure is.

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To all of you, I've stuck around, feeling the same way for her for about a year. Never done that for anyone else. Never was able to make a relationship happen with her either. (a ton of circumstantial things happened multiple times whenever I worked up the courage to even try) I feel the way I do because she happens to be who she is. I'm not sure what it is, but I like it.

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