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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2011 12:06 pm
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good ol jealousy... they are afraid that we love the guitars more than them... i'm pretty lucky my girlfriend gets me


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2011 12:56 pm
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Bluesbreaker, glad you liked it. Let me know what the lady says...

Thanks! Will do!!


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2011 4:23 pm
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For some reason, many wives/girlfriends seem to have a strange desire to have their husbands sit down with them every night and watch awful programs on television.

Husbands should always make an effort to spend quality time with their wives, but I simply don't see this as a good example of 'quality time!'


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2011 5:00 pm
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For some reason, many wives/girlfriends seem to have a strange desire to have their husbands sit down with them every night and watch awful programs on television.

Husbands should always make an effort to spend quality time with their wives, but I simply don't see this as a good example of 'quality time!'


I remember my grand parents always doing jigsaw puzzles together. To me that is quality time and conversation. They were together for over 60 years both passing in their 90's. So me and my gal followed that example and we work on a puzzle and shoot the $@!& a few times a week. But there are still a few awful tv shows she has to see :lol: I recommend that to any couple

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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2011 5:03 pm
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The wife likes "reality" shows and stuff that involves "interventions" or horrible drug addicts. I don't really need to watch that stuff so I go off to watch poker shows and noodle around on the guit-box.

We have been playing card games with our 8-year-old daughter after dinner and that's a good family time activity. And of course, we go out to dinner on date nights, etc., but I do get the "look" when I pull out the guitar too early, so I generally wait until I put everyone to bed before bringing it out...


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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2011 7:28 pm
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My wife complains that old amplifiers smell bad.

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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 12:59 am
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schnepf13 wrote:
For some reason, many wives/girlfriends seem to have a strange desire to have their husbands sit down with them every night and watch awful programs on television.

Husbands should always make an effort to spend quality time with their wives, but I simply don't see this as a good example of 'quality time!'


It's pretty simple, and several posters here are smart enough to have realized it -- women want to feel connected to their partner. And these days, most women are running at full speed (to get everything done that needs doing) most of the time. Which means when they sit down to watch TV, they're in a place where they've slowed down a bit, and probably want to be with their partner.

My husband is getting to the point where he wonders about all of my instruments (4 guitars + 2 basses, soon to be 3 basses, then hopefully 4). But he doesn't say much as long as we manage to maintain a reasonable balance in what we spend on his hobbies vs. my hobby. (Although when I told him that I want an American Deluxe P Bass, and how much it costs, he blinked. :lol: )

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Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 5:13 am
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schnepf13 wrote:
For some reason, many wives/girlfriends seem to have a strange desire to have their husbands sit down with them every night and watch awful programs on television.

Husbands should always make an effort to spend quality time with their wives, but I simply don't see this as a good example of 'quality time!'


It's pretty simple, and several posters here are smart enough to have realized it -- women want to feel connected to their partner. And these days, most women are running at full speed (to get everything done that needs doing) most of the time. Which means when they sit down to watch TV, they're in a place where they've slowed down a bit, and probably want to be with their partner.

My husband is getting to the point where he wonders about all of my instruments (4 guitars + 2 basses, soon to be 3 basses, then hopefully 4). But he doesn't say much as long as we manage to maintain a reasonable balance in what we spend on his hobbies vs. my hobby. (Although when I told him that I want an American Deluxe P Bass, and how much it costs, he blinked. :lol: )

COOL!!!!!!! You go girl!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:Image


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 5:27 am
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My wife doesn't hate my guitars. She know I like guitar when we first met. In fact, she bought my my latest guitar. Though she has never realized with that guitar, I have a total of 5. I kept them separate from each other, all in their hard cases.

She like to hear me play at times, and she particularly like my Epi tone, the guitar that she bought for me.


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 6:25 am
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My wife likes the pretty ones but I like the cool looking ones... other than that there's no real issue with it.... unless I play acoustic guitar..... she HATES that!


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2011 4:50 pm
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5 guitars vs. 50 pairs of shoes.

argument over. i'm always availabe for more advice.

my wife could care less.


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2011 5:14 pm
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In a former life, my former wife broke the head off of my Takemine acoustic. Former is the operative word.

My wife now just got me a guitar for Christmas and when I told her I wanted to sell one of my guitars (a nice cherry sunburst Les Paul) she said, keep it, it's really pretty. Obviously not all wives are the same (at meast not mine :) )


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2011 5:42 pm
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My wife and I have been married for 32 ½ years. When I proposed, I told her I'm a musician and all the stories she's heard about musicians are true. Obviously she still said yes. We've had our ups and downs like most couples, but there have been more and greater highs than lows.

About 17 years ago I stopped playing. I mean stopped. I rarely ever picked up a guitar or sang song. The band I was in back then had very good success localy. We played all the big events in our area and often opened for top acts when they played in our area. After about 8 years the band was starting to get burned out and my only son was 10 at the time. I needed the break and he needed me at home.

A few months ago an old band mate, our front man, asked if I wanted to start something up again. He hadn't done much in a long time either. We got some guys together, started practicing and we've played one gig (got 2 more gigs out of it) and have a couple of others coming up including New Years. I was surprised how quickly things came back to me. It will be another 4 to 6 months before I feel really comfortable with what I'm doing, but I'm doing alright for now.

I kept most of my gear and I'm still using a lot of it including my 1992 Jazz 5 string and 1975 P-bass. I did buy a new Hartke HA5500 amp and the 4 x 10 HyDrive speakers. I also had to purchase a new SansAmp since I loaned mine out and never got it back. I've bought a few odd and ends, strings, new guitar stand, etc..., but those were the big items that I needed. My wife had no problem with me buying all that and is really happy to see me playing and singing again.

But the one purchase I've made that really surprised me, a Michael Kelly Firefly 5 string acoustic bass. Now this is something I didn't really need, but rather wanted. My wife was fine with it and she really likes the guitar. Especially since she can watch her tv shows without me disturbing her while I practice! :D

If I had it all to do over again......
I would. :)

Good luck to all. Remember to treat her as well as you do your guitar and things will be fine.

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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 1:17 pm
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I never could seem to deal with the constant interruptions during practice, recording and what-have-you from the wife very well...I am divorced now...I play all the time. That's my answer. Probably not a good one.


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Post subject: Re: Why do our wives hate our guitars?
Posted: Fri Sep 27, 2019 11:19 pm
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I have the opposite problem. I'm a woman and been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years, and he has never shown any interest in me playing guitar, even when I specifically say I want to serenade him with some rock n roll or acoustic jammin or whatever. It's very strange to me, because usually men and even women friends or strangers think it's awesome that I play...I've been playing for about 14 years, so I know his avoidance is not because I'm terrible...
I just find it really strange. I've sat down and said I wanted to play him a song, and he doesn't even look at me, just goes on his phone or busys himself doing other stuff. I don't pester him with it either, i try this every couple months...but he just is more interested in video games or watching boring TV. I even bought him a beginner's acoustic guitar 2 years ago to see if he would want to do it together instead of just watching...after I gave it to him for xmas, he was into it for a week, but oddly when I said "ooh I can help you learn some chords so we can jam, it'll be fun!!" His reply was "I don't want you to teach me. I want to teach myself." And then he downloaded an app on his phone, tried it for about a week and gave up....

I'm posting now out if frustration, because it has been about 6 months since i last tried to serenade him, and this time tonight was no different. I started playing some blues/rock and asked if he'd wanna listen or join in, I could show him some simple blues chords. He rolled his eyes at me and went to go play videogames again....which is all he ever does as a hobby aside from watching tv.

Is it just me or is that rude?
I'm a very direct person, so i said "I'd like it if you showed some interest sometimes. playing guitar is very important to me, and it's important that I can at least occasionally play you a song or play guitar with me, it's a big part of who I am."
He just got angry and went into the bedroom room to watch mindless meme videos on his phone instead...on a Friday night when neither if us needs to be up early for work in the morning.

Maybe I shouldn't be annoyed, but I am. I'm 27, hot young gal that plays almost all genres of music...I even try playing his favorite songs to get him into it. Doesn't even give me the time of day. It really bothers me.

And it's not like he is a bad guy everything else in our relationship is great. We talk about getting married sometime soon, but I'm worried that this could be a larger issue in the future

. How do you guys deal with it, that your wives show no interest in your music skills/hobby? I'm at a loss...

Sorry... long rant over.


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