Nevin mate- I take your a single fella...



"What's your excuse?"

Mate I made the same mistake with a gal a few years ago in Australia. We are great friends and there is a bit of "tension" between us if you know what I mean..

Problem was, I didnt have a pair to actually do anything about it. I did everything right- impressed her parents, made an impression on her, she compliments me, and I the same to her. She told me that her mum keeps suggesting we should be together- considering when I met her mother, I had food poisoning & I couldnt eat the lovely food her mum cooked as I had the trots. I somehow still managed to set an impression...

I missed out though.

Anyways, Im heading over to Brisbane on monday. Im going to spend 10days with her at her place, I have no intention of taking advantage of the situation as we are great great friends. Being the chump I was, she started talking to me about her BF problems which quietly to myself rubbed a little salt in it.. But now, she has told me that she will take me out on a date, she misses me and she is absolutely beside herself now that Im going over. Best of all, she and I are both single and we both know there are some feelings unsaid between us. I dont have expectations on anything here- Im going over to see a friend and spend some time with her. What will happen will happen I guess. She is everybit as a beautiful woman should be & I intend on making her feel just that.

Moral of the story mate- you could well have missed your chance. Or maybe not. who knows, but you cannot rely on anything except yourself to put yourself out there if you want to do something to get this 'Layla' thinking about you, or if you just want to meet someone. If you do meet somebody then all the best to you. If not, well- you can honestly take the pledge and say you gave it your best shot

If you get a second shot like I am, dude- grab the ball and run with it & never look over your shoulder.. But do yourself a favour and say you will do something proactive about it next time.




"Let me see your war face!!"

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here's what is going to happen..........
nevin will end up marrying miss America. it just so happens that her father is a successful music producer. nevin will start his solo career and change the face of music as we know it. becoming bored with music, he will run for office and and later become president of the U.S. he will go down in history as the best president ever.
blaaaaaaaaa and twaaaaaaaaa

i'd still vote for you bro.

I think not

If she's not a free agent she ought not to be sending you signs as if she is. She ought to sever her relationship with the present before she gets busy with the next project. For some distaff perspective, perhaps you should read Patty Boyd's book on the whole affair.

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"Another day in paradise!"

But yer know Doc, all woman love attention. That could very well be what she is seeking in Nevin...

Nevin must have all the woman jumping over themselves just to get to him...

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i swear to god you it seems like in every post you describe me... ... that being said ive learned the benefits of acoustic guitar + party + wonder wall

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Melvins
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Cows
Big Business
R***man
Minutemen
Flight
Minor Threat
Big Black
Shellac
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Scratch Acid
Wipers
Pixies

Yeah but relationships dont allways work mate- I know what your saying and you do feel like that when you get a certain age.. im 31 soon and I have struggled myself. Im fairly decent looking, Im a good bloke and I treat woman right but still- Im still single.

It was way easy when I was 18- but then again, a lot of girls just wanted one thing only. These day, yeah there are women with children or careers and I feel like I have missed the boat totally, but hey Nevin, worry about the things you have an influence over and not the things you dont. Sometimes people put too much pressure on themselves & get stressed out.

If I was you, maybe do something different with yourself.. like new clothes or a haircut- one thing that does attract woman is confidence and you must show other people that you have confidence.

Here's another thing- the next time you walk past a woman on the street, smile at her. Be sincere about it- you dont have to say hi- but I will guarantee it will absolutely knock any woman off what she will be thinking at that time and will certainly put a smile on her face

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Well you've got a four-page pity party going on here now -- that's something to celebrate!

Arjay

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"Here's why reliability is job one: A great sounding amp that breaks down goes from being a favorite piece of gear to a useless piece of crap in less time than it takes to read this sentence." -- BRUCE ZINKY

[quote="Nevin1985"]I work in a hospital, so every day the male to female ratio is like 50:1 I meet plenty of interesting people every day, but do they find me interesting? Hmmm.[quote]

Met my wife in a hospital over thirty years ago. Each of us had other lives, other spouses, and other responsibilities then. Went our separate ways, each through major changes. Married to each other now these past twenty years this month, very different people now, in a different kind of relationship, from what we were raised to expect and assume.

Be yourself, do your thing, make no pretenses. The dating culture sucks, laying down hard earned dollars for the benefit of a moment's feminine companionship. The woman who choses you is where you begin. All the rest of our social graces and customs are bullshit.

This, in my 68th year, is what I have finally come to know and understand about myself:
If providence were to sadly dictate, and oblige me to go on without her, I would be the consummate loner, dedicated to my t-shirts, denim, mind, music, and the need to complete my bucket list before my allotted time, eschewing social conventions unless they suit my purpose for a given occasion. The companionship would have to accrue along the way, being loving and aloof at once and at the same time.

Perhaps you are in a better place than you realize.

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"Another day in paradise!"

Doc, you are an absolute master. I totally agree with you on everything you say.

Nevin, move down here mate- I will guarantee the 50:1 ratio will be 1 male to 50 woman in our hospitals!!




I cannot agree more- especially with the woman who chooses you part. Gold advice spoken from wisdom right there mate.

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