My wife's been gone almost a year now and I've given some thought to writing a song about her, but it may be too soon. I have made her a character in a novel I'm writing, but that's a little different from writing a song about her. Anyway, she had a horrible bone disease and her bones were breaking apart on the inside; however, that's not what killed her. The pneumonia got her. Anyway, she's in an urn in the living room. I joke that her ghost has been wanting an urn made out of gold. How long is long enough to wait before writing a song about her? If I write it too soon, it won't come out right.

So sorry for your loss, I don't even know what to say to your post... Maybe you will just have to look inside your heart for the answer

God Bless

Bill

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If it helps you get though the grieving process, I say go for it.

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It's NEVER too soon to write a song for your wife... or too often !!
I believe that somehow she will hear you and say that it was beautiful !!

ps- all you other married guys... ......

She hears me talk to her and joke around. I'll say, "when I get to hell you're gettin' a whoopin' for dyin' on me". Unfortunately she can't say anything back; against the rules. I might try and write something. Might throw a lot of it out later, might not.

Sorry to hear about your wife buts she obviously with you in your heart so why wait. Im sure you think about her all the time. Its just another way to honor her.

The advice my writing (fiction) instructor back in my school days gave me was to wait a good while after a severe loss before writing about it, but I'm kinda thinking, hell go ahead and write something. I can always rewrite it later if it doesn't come out right.

I couldnt think of a better way to celebrate her life.

It's never too early or too late to honour the memory of a loved one who sahred your life.You never know some day the inspiration will come to you as an epiphany right out of the blue and just flow as suddenly as that. It seems that most of the best songs come from a sudden burst of inspiration.Give it some time and try not to force yourself ,love is the strongest emotion of all and the song will come to you in its own time.

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youve already written the song in your heart, all ya gotta do is put it on paper now. ( she might be waiting to hear it )

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Laughingpanther wrote: "My wife's been gone almost a year now and I've given some thought to writing a song about her, but it may be too soon. I have made her a character in a novel I'm writing, but that's a little different from writing a song about her. Anyway, she had a horrible bone disease and her bones were breaking apart on the inside; however, that's not what killed her. The pneumonia got her. Anyway, she's in an urn in the living room. I joke that her ghost has been wanting an urn made out of gold. How long is long enough to wait before writing a song about her? If I write it too soon, it won't come out right. "

How long is long enough
to wait before writing
a song about her
but it may be too soon
almost a year now
My wife's been gone
and I've given some thought
to her sense of humor
If I write it too soon
won't it come out right.

looks like you are writing about her already, you must continue writing.

sorry for your loss

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Go for it! If you are thinking this much about it, it's probably time. Please share it with us here. Like others have said, celebrate her life, that will enrich yours because as long as we have those precious memories, our loved ones who have paseed, live on with us in them. And you honor her by keeping her memories alive. So would writing a musical piece about her. Lord bless!

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Mate, I know I have felt your sorrow and pain when I lost my dad, I cannot imagine what its like for you.

Whatever you are doing is healthy if it helps you. Dont think too much about how early the times are- just do it. Great songs are written from experiences like this.

Keep the chin up mate- it will get easier as time goes on.

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Hi laughingpanther: I find this thread very moving and I send you much sympathetic feeling.

I've lost several close people in the last handful of years, including my brother. We were very close and not a day goes past without my thinking of him and wanting to share stuff with him.

Around a couple of years after he died I found myself writing a song which turned out to be about him. Normally song writing is painfully slow and difficult for me but everything about this one just sort of flowed out of my fingers without trying - the structure, melody and words came as if they'd been there all along and I was just recalling them to mind.

A very atypical experience for me: I guess that song was waiting in the wings to be written. Maybe it just was the right moment - and I guess what I'm suggesting is you'll know when it's time to write about your wife because she or the song will tell you.

One more suggestion: there's no reason why you have to write only one song. Many people have got whole albums full of material from traumatic experiences, usually loss of one kind or another. There are many different aspects to losing someone, so many songs are possible.

So go to, why not? And if it doesn't work, try again later.

My best wishes to you - C

I appreciate the sympathies expressed in this thread. I might try to write something in a day or two.