My Wife won't let me have a Girlfriend

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The strongest reason for the people to retain the right to keep and bear arms is, as a last resort, to protect themselves against tyranny in government.

Thomas Jefferson

I gotta say, VTBS, that where I live it's frowned on, if not illegal to keep two wives in my garage.

Gridlok

That was well said - although it doesn't always work out so harmoniously - my wife and I support each other.

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Steve

when i got married 27 years ago, my wife knew my habits. not many bad ones- but she knew i loved music, and encourages me to play all the time.

if she had said to me before we were married that she didn't want me to hang out with my friends, or play the occasional gig, the wedding probably would not have happened. you should never marry anyone with the intention of completely changing them.

that being said, there are certain situations where i would consult with the misses first. i would never tell her on a friday afternoon that i was going to take off with my buddies to go camping. i would give her the courtesy of talking to her first, and making sure that nothing else was scheduled ahead of time. i know my wife would return the favor.

i do have a few friends that i hardly see because they allow their spouse to control everything- not the way i want to go thru life

I always make my decisions with infinite regards to my wife's feelings. We are not "best friends" or "equal partners" or whatever the PC term is now. 32 years ago, we fell in love and time has not lessened the way we feel about each other. We spent over 20 years together on active duty in the Army (went to war together too), moved all over the world, and raised two children to boot. Too often, people get in the mistaken mindset that to make a marriage work, they should always meet their spouse halfway. NO, that will not work! I have always put my wife's feelings and wishes before mine and she has always put mine before hers. By always looking at her the way I did when we fell in love, I have never grown complacent or unhappy with our relationship. We look at each other and treat each other the way we did in the beginning so for us it never gets old. Although it has been 32 years, it seems like we are still dating. We look forward to every minute together and regret every second that we are apart........Maybe I just got lucky!

Yes he could of meant many things but JSJH is right , there are some guys who are just P-whipped and that is the biggest turn off for me. I am laughing just thinking about it as my wife has an uncle that is the but of all family jokes as it is so obvious that his wife calls every shot , and the way the guy jumps when she says lets go is hysterical. I have been with my wife 33 years. Oh my God I cant even believe it my self. I went out with her when I was 15 and we went together 11 years and I am married 22. I believe in a 50-50 relationship and working as a team, as on the other hand I dont like to see guys abuse there other half or rule with an iron fist.

It all depends lad.

Me going out and doing something with my friends, my wife doesn't get involved unless I ask her opinion. If I do ask for her input, I feel it is only common courtesy to take it into consideration (or why ask in the first place). Bear in mind, I am married with 2 children, so by choice I spend most of my time with them being a family.

Me spending a large sum of loot without consulting her, out of the question. It's not just my money or just my life.

In the end, married men understand that if the wife ain't happy, you ain't happy. If the wife ain't happy for long enough, you will be really unhappy and with only half your stuff.

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"Life is like eating jalapenos. What you do today may burn your arse tomorrow"

Many good posts on this thread. I like this one a lot:

And the point is, that's not a duty or a chore or a compromise. It's the whole fun of the project! It feels good!

Very noticeable that there's no women's voices on this thread. Might be nice to hear the other half's point of view...

Cheers - C

Funny man!

Would it sound any better if I said... "One is for comfort, the other for speed!" ??

Oh, I've been married for 29 years. We both have our own way when it's not hugely important. The motorcycles are no big deal nor are her two dogs. We don't need to check with each other on every little detail of what we do. I trust her implicitly.

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You're only as strong as
the drinks you pour,
the tables you dance on,
and the friends you roll with.

I didn't ask mine,....she found out though.

At home, I always have the last word, I just have to say " Yes dear".
Claude.

Very well said phreddy, my wife doesn't discourage music she just asked for the compromise that I not play EVERY weekend. Seemed like an easy enough compromise.

Give and take........... Mike

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The blues ain't nothin but a good man feelin bad.

thats nice

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riley

Although...
No women != No trouble

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Steve