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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 8:55 am
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Great big hug comin your way LVA, best wishes for your Pa


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Positive vibes from the central coast of the USA...the Great Lakes.

Sometimes, Lady VA and others, life just plain sucks. It's then this soul endeavours to do the greater perspective thing (which was really hard after wife passed, suddenly, some years ago) and realize you still have a lot going for you.


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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 10:35 am
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You've got a lot of friends rootin for ya LVA, times like these suck. It will pass though, you'll be a stronger person in the end. One thing I would like to stress though, be gentle with yourself. Don't be beating yourself up over things outwith your control, it just makes matters worse. Keep yer chin up pal :D Major mojo commin your way from sunny Scotland 8)


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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 11:43 am
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Ozark MoJo your way Lady... Ya know the "bad" times make the "good" times so much better. hang in there were all rootin'for ya!

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 3:23 pm
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Best time to write IMO.

Wish you the best.

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 3:32 pm
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it's natural for us to get down from time to time. just don't stay there. my jobs and finances get me down all the time. it's hard not to let it affect my attitude and sleep. but, the sun will rise tomoorow, god willing, and it's up to me to decide how i will approach this day that was not promised to me by anyone or anything.
try and do something that makes you laugh or smile, no matter what it is. i know it's dumb but it helps me get through rough days.
it's not how you fall. it's how you get back up. you can do it.


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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 4:39 pm
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Thanks all (love the clips..whack a kitty LOL and V) for being so understanding.

Well, to answer one question, about 2 1/2 years ago, dad "fell" in the parking lot of a church (we really don't know what happened. the church has seriously abandoned us. they refuse to talk or help us in any real fashion). He was in a coma for over four months and finally woke up (after having 4 brain surgeries due to a subdural hematoma--his brain practically pushed to one side of his head). He is now a quadriplegic. He used to do everything himself--walking to the post office, cleaning the gutters, shoveling snow, working out all the time, etc. He was totally independent. Now, he's completely dependent. (I'm not going to mention all the caregiver woes and now realizing how horrible and lazy most people can be). Luckily, his memory (aside from what happened to him) was not affected. He remembers who he is and his short and long term memory is excellent considering his injury. I'm pissed that the church, who dad and mom have been a part of for almost forty years, kicked him to the curb and cast him out like a leper. It's wrong and horrible. Since he can't remember, we can't really take legal action. It really sucks. Dad's stuck in that bed, we're worn out physically and emotionally. I just feel bad saying...well...I feel bad because dad is so much worse off. Makes me feel like a whiner. Plus, it's a toll on my job (and my sis who has to take care of him too) and I'm worried boss will kick me to the curb. It just sucks.

Thanks for the support. It really means alot. *hugs*

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 6:08 pm
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Sounds like a lot on your plate there. Mojo and prayers sent your way from my family to yours. 8)

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 6:35 pm
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Lady V, you need to sue that church into oblivion. God, that makes me angry. I recommend a $@! for an attorney as there will be no conflicts, you know? He wont start hearing voices in the middle of proceedings. He wont be turned by superstition and such.

I'm not kidding. Scourge, them spit on them and tack em' up, baby. At least talk to an injury atty, and find out. Your father cant take care of you the way he'd like to. Now, you're a parent and must make decisions that are good for your family. Compensation is due. Your home must be remodeled to provide for your father's special needs. Front and back ramps, handicap shower pan, hand rails, etc.

This is heart breaking, Lady V.

No more Mr. Nice Girl. I'm with you 100%.


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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 7:12 pm
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LadyV My thoughts are with you and Family!

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Posted: Tue May 11, 2010 7:40 pm
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LVA, plain and simple, that sucks $@!. I'm sorry that you and your family have to deal with that. I'll pray for your pop to get better. They say life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent what you choose to do about it. Sounds like good advice. Well those people can go to hell :wink: Sometimes you get a crap hand but you gotta play it the best you can. When that hand gets better pick up that Axe and give it a serious strum. Stay positive and better karma will come your way.

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Lady hang in hon this to shall pass. We all get down in the dumps but just remember it will get better and try and lose yourself in music or a movie, and just take it easy for awhile.


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Posted: Wed May 12, 2010 4:51 pm
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Thanks again. You're all so sweet.

I think today was the breaking point. A LOT of things were going wrong and I just lost it after work today. I have a couple of really nice coworkers to help me out. Thanks!!

So before going home, I decided to ride around and go to my fave music store. I tried to play with an amp I've been looking at (well, my nails were way too long and didn't practice in a long time. It was a little crowded and I was too embarrassed to play. I felt like everyone was looking at me and my mind went blank). There was a gal with her daughter who really knew how to play. She said her son had an amp like the one I was looking at (it was a peavy vypr 30) and it was pretty nice. She tried to tune up the guitar the guy gave me to try out but even she had a hard time.

I told the kid at the counter I was too embarrassed to play because one, I'm not too good (he said he wasn't either LOL) and two, the place was kinda crowded. He said I should come more towards the evening if I could. Sometimes they're open late and if I call, and they're open a few minutes late, to come by to play so I won't feel so embarrassed. He was a nice kid.

It felt nice just to try to play and talk to other people. The mom who was waiting with her kid for her son was really nice. It felt good to get out a little and just do something different, even if I didn't know what I doing.

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Posted: Wed May 12, 2010 5:47 pm
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These things happen Lady, my depression destroys me most days and things that have happened in the last few years haven't helped but music and my friends and family get me through.

All the luck in Ireland coming your way. Listen to some music you love, I'd bet at some point you start smiling!

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Posted: Wed May 12, 2010 6:28 pm
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*hugs to all* Major prayers for all of you. Thank you so much.

Well, hit the F chord again today a few times. Yay. Haven't practiced in a bit so it's good to see some rhythm coming back. Decided to follow my book (a Hal Leonard which is older than God LOL) and do note picking. It felt like my fingers remembered the songs which felt good.

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