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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2016 3:11 pm
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You know, I have to admit I know your situation well. I'm not going to get into details here on a public forum, but I've been in similar shoes as you. Do what you can for your daughter, but I wouldn't put too much stock in her mother. If it is this bad now, it won't get any better, just worse. That won't help your kid in the long run because they still will grow up in a dysfunctional environment of either tension or constant conflict. I know this from personal experience. You're going to have to make some serious decisions ahead of you that is for certain. I can't really say what, because it is your life and not mine. I just know I've been there and sorry that you have to deal with that $@!&, too.

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2016 5:08 pm
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It's over. I need to get wasted.

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2016 6:23 pm
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I don't blame you. I think you'll be OK down the road. You're still pretty young and have time to figure $@!& out. Hopefully, you have a supportive family, as that would make it a little easier on you.

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Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2016 10:31 pm
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Buxom wrote:
It's over. I need to get wasted.


James... slow down, take a few deep breath's and remember that you have much more to be thankful for. People change, do your best and roll with the changes. You will be fine. 8)

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 7:57 am
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This amp is incredible. It has a great tone for clean Psychedelic playing, and an even better tone with an MXR D+. I'll probably be picking up the distortion box next check. $100 even with a power adapter. I'll negotiate with my local music store guru.

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Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 7:58 am
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Also, the clean psychedelic tone comes from my old as EHX Micro Q-Tron. Absolutely the greatest pedal I've ever used.

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 9:33 am
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Not this week because you're still in recoil mode but maybe next week you will want to sit down (alone and without whisky or weed) for a few hours and really think. Consider where you went wrong, what you would do differently. The exercise has nothing to do with where she went wrong or what she did to you or how she made you feel. You need to examine your own failure and take full responsibility for it and completely disregard her failure as it is of zero help to you.

- When, exactly, did you first make your first error in judgement?
- What were your other errors in judgement - make a list?
- What telltale signs were there that you did not recognize at the time?
- What telltale signs were there that you did recognize but chose to ignore?
- How will you attempt to recognize such signs in the future?
- What changes will you implement in your decision making process to avoid this happening again?
- How can you help yourself to recognize when you are ignoring a sign?
- How can you help yourself to understand why you are ignoring the sign?
- How will you bolster your resolve when it comes to those signs you chose to ignore?
- What other things could you have done differently not already covered by the above?

Where did you fail?

Those who fail to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them.
Take it from a man who took far too many years to learn that the long string of failed relationships was entirely my own fault, regardless of what useless pieces of kaka those wimmin were, because I kept doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. You are young. Learn now. Save yourself years of struggle.

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 9:35 am
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Good to hear you are enjoying the new amp, James.

Keep on keeping on, and have a great day. :D
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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 11:41 am
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BMW-KTM wrote:
Not this week because you're still in recoil mode but maybe next week you will want to sit down (alone and without whisky or weed) for a few hours and really think. Consider where you went wrong, what you would do differently. The exercise has nothing to do with where she went wrong or what she did to you or how she made you feel. You need to examine your own failure and take full responsibility for it and completely disregard her failure as it is of zero help to you.

- When, exactly, did you first make your first error in judgement?
- What were your other errors in judgement - make a list?
- What telltale signs were there that you did not recognize at the time?
- What telltale signs were there that you did recognize but chose to ignore?
- How will you attempt to recognize such signs in the future?
- What changes will you implement in your decision making process to avoid this happening again?
- How can you help yourself to recognize when you are ignoring a sign?
- How can you help yourself to understand why you are ignoring the sign?
- How will you bolster your resolve when it comes to those signs you chose to ignore?
- What other things could you have done differently not already covered by the above?

Where did you fail?

Those who fail to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them.
Take it from a man who took far too many years to learn that the long string of failed relationships was entirely my own fault, regardless of what useless pieces of kaka those wimmin were, because I kept doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. You are young. Learn now. Save yourself years of struggle.


God that really is great advice.

Look entirely at YOU. I tell you this from being in a few abusive, outright toxic relationships. No woman will want to listen to a thing you say unless you're going to accept where you personally went wrong.
They don't want to play the blame game at all. What most would rather is that you discuss what's gone wrong. What your current goals are, long and short term. How you plan on reaching them. Yes, even in a breakup.
And that includes sane women.

For the sake of your kid and your own sanity. Do all you can to see that you get regular visitation to your daughter. Time and time again I hear off blokes who's kids are used as a weapon against them. Because the mother feels wronged or attacked. It happened to a mate of mine only last week. She even took his daughter with her to his work to tell him that he wasn't going to see her for the next couple of weekends.
You don't want that. So do all you can to be peacemaker. Mr polite and sociable who bares no ill feeling.
And whatever you do, when visiting times are arranged, stick to them. Don't be absent. I'll never forget my ex wife telling em how she'd wait for her useless dad to show up. When she was a kid. And how she felt when he didn't.
Don't ever be that bloke.

Really sorry this has happened to you my old mate.

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Post subject: Re: Took a Deuce.
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 2:07 pm
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Buxom wrote:
This amp is incredible. It has a great tone for clean Psychedelic playing, and an even better tone with an MXR D+. I'll probably be picking up the distortion box next check. $100 even with a power adapter. I'll negotiate with my local music store guru.

Sounds pretty good. That's a nice rig you have going there. 8)

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